• Emotional Health

    You Are Stronger

    There are so many people in my life that I admire. There are many reasons why. 🙂 Some of the people I love the most have been through some really hard stuff. A combination of things that you wouldn’t even think possible. There’s not a lot I think of as ‘not possible’ anymore. As I listen to so many beautiful ladies’ stories, I hear them share how those things have made them weak. Whether it’s financial, loss of loved ones, sickness, misunderstanding,…the list goes on, they feel as though they are broken now. Not as good as they used to be. De-valued somehow. It’s different for everyone, but a similar…

  • Emotional Health

    Comparison isn’t fun…

    Comparing ourselves to others doesn’t work as a motivating force. It actually ends up doing the opposite. Comparison generally works two ways: They’re better than me. (I’m not good enough.) I’m better than them. (Looking for something to flaw). In either case, this feels terrible. Let’s break these down a bit, and then we’ll find one positive area comparison can be empowering. They’re better than me. When we look at someone and they have something we don’t, has done something we haven’t, or seems to have more confidence than us, we look at it as a whipping stick for our own value. Isn’t that wild? This usually shows itself in…

  • Emotional Health

    Pain is human right now

    If you deal with chronic pain, you know what I’m talking about. It’s hard to explain how this type of pain effects you. I got to a point some time ago when I decided to look at my pain as my ‘suitcase.’ I carry it around. It’s heavy. I can’t seem to offload it. It’s just on the journey with me (I guess a suitcase is useful on a journey?). There is a regular level of pain that just comes with me all day, every day. Nothing I can do about it as of now. Out of nowhere, it will intensify. It’s hard not to be annoyed, frustrated, scared through…

  • Emotional Health

    Hindsight as a Teacher, not a Bully

    ‘Hindsight is 20/20.’ This is usually my ‘oh, well’ response to the unchangeable. It seems obvious looking back and knowing what the ‘right’ thing to do would’ve been. Why does it seem so clear now? Who knows. That topic is for another conversation. Today I want to share the value of hindsight. It’s easy to beat ourselves up for thinking a decision we made was not the best. It’s sooo easy to beat ourselves up, right? In fact, do you ever find it difficult to criticize yourself? Mmm, no. Right on schedule, there it is: I’m not good enough. Classic ‘me’ move. I can’t believe I did that. And the…

  • Emotional Health

    It’s Never Your Last Emotion

    Have you ever been really sick? So sick that you had to cancel everything. I hate that. I’ll give you a recent example of a migraine. Day started fine. I actually felt amazing. I worked out, took a shower, and got on a call with a website consultant. Suddenly, it felt like my brain was my enemy, and I had to get off the call. The pain was excruciating. I was so scared. I started vomiting from the pain (sorry if you don’t like vomit), and so the day went on into the night. Late that night and the next day my head still felt the effects, almost like it…

  • Emotional Health

    Emotional Balance

    Is it possible to have emotional balance, and if so, what is it? The goal for many of is to be happy as much as possible, but sadly, right now, that’s not realistic. It’s just not the way it is. It’s a part of being a human right now. What really makes us uncomfortable: Not being happy all the time or thinking we should be happy all the time The difference is when we think we SHOULD be happy all the time, we look for all the reasons why we’re not happy. If negative emotions were just a 50/50 split right now, would you feel as crazy? That was one…